"Knowing people and liking them isn’t always about knowing specific facts like birthdays or favorite colors, even things that would make headlines in some newspaper. It’s never about the clothes they wear or their past. Because it’s in the way they laugh or eat a bagel, speak of the day and night, or crinkle their nose.
Maybe appreciating people has a lot more to do with taking comfort in their subtleties, like interesting superstitions they have or the way they tie their shoes, the manner in which they explain things and the adjectives they use, how a person’s face freezes when angry, or how they sound like salty caramel and rum when they talk. Because sometimes the things that only you can see in a person mean a hell of a lot more than the things you’re expected to like.
Sometimes the idiosyncrasies that seem so insignificant, that you only catch in passing, when you accidentally look or happen to catch them being unmistakably themselves are the ones that draw you in and leave you wanting more of a person."